I used to be like that....but it was because people were being mean and they didn't realise it. I'm extremely sensitive and when I moved back to Aus after 7 years people were still treating me like a child. It was extremely rude and I felt alienated. They didn't know they were doing it. I told dad I wasn't going to go to Christmas 2 years ago because of it and he talked to the family on my behalf. I was dragged there and I had the best time ever!
What was happening was as a child I would never shut up. I would interrupt and talk loud and excitedly. I still do but not like I used to. When I walked into the room I was told by 3 separate people to sit down and shut my mouth and let the adults talk. It was in no uncertain terms. Every time I tried to add to the conversation I was told x and y were talking or to wait, and I was NEVER once given a turn.
It's hard enough to have a turn when all of them are siblings and are reminiscing about things before my time, without having to deal with things I can relate to being shut down too. I ended up sitting there without anyone but one aunt talking to me asking how I was. When I left the room I said I was tired when that same aunt asked if I was okay. I was not tired, I was miserable and heartbroken
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That entire night only that one aunt asked me how I was and spoke to me like an equal. At the time I was 22/23 I am the oldest of all the "children" and I was treated like the youngest.
After dad spoke to them they made a real effort to include me initially but as time wore on they found I could include myself if they just allowed me to - I could join in if I wasn't pushed out.
So my point is....yes sometimes people are angry and depressed but sometimes they are hurting because of something they may not be able to talk about or put to words. Maybe you can light up their dark corner by asking how they are and talking to them like a good friend, instead of like a child or delicate person. Help them out of their shell. Help them feel loved and included. Often times when we feel unloved we just need someone to remind us we are worthy and valuable, and that people do love us.
As for god, I know for damn certain he loves each and every one of us.....see my story:
I had an awful nightmare a doctor raped me before a pelvic exam when I was in GA. I was 19. Mum was upstairs getting ready to drive me and I was moping and putting shoes on downstairs. I was pretty shaken from the dream still and I thought I would probably kill myself if that happened. I decided I definitely would as I put my shoes on, in such a definitive way that it was honestly the only path I could see at all after such trauma (it was extremely traumatic).
A pain I cannot describe went through my body like my soul itself was acid. It was so painful, more painful than anything I have ever felt in my life or ever will feel. I collapsed unable to breathe and a voice said to me something along the lines of how dare I take my life, I am perfect and God made me perfect and I have no right to destroy his work (take a life) and the pain I was in was only a fraction of the pain I would cause doing that. When mum came down stairs I was white faced and pulling myself up off the floor (I was so terrified I was completely white). When I got to the doctors she told me she couldn't do the exam on me because I looked terrified, white, and was shaking, and she did not want to traumatise me (go figure). I have NEVER told this story publicly and am a bit worried in doing so as it is extremely personal.
As for the both of you, I love you both VERY much, and that is in no way a joke. I love each and every one of you guys so passionately just saying it has my eyes brimming with tears. So put that in a box under your Christmas tree <3.