Nowadays if you even mention the name of Jesus people a lot of times have such a violent and enraged reaction to his name. I know why, but I want others to explain why they personally may have such a negative reaction toward him?
Personally, my own family just wasn't as good about it as yours. My sister was an immensely toxic presence, and refused to recognize the harm she was causing because she could change the subject to Jesus and how people should learn to "forgive." (She kept using that word...I can't help but feel that it didn't mean what she thought it meant, which was, "Don't draw attention to the damage that I have done. Ever. At all.")
On a more general level, while the sentiment I usually get about that is, "Don't punish the religion for the behavior of the followers!" I've just come to the opinion that the faith
is its people. I've come to understand that my sister perhaps has a personality disorder, and her interpretation of Jesus isn't the only one (or, depending on who I ask, the
right one)... but rather than solve the problem of my personal association to the word, I find another reason to be averse to it, which is: the assertion that Jesus and the associated belief system is a superior monolithic belief system to absolutely any and all other perspectives.
So, considering how other belief systems are in turn considered through the lens of this particular belief system,
does frequently take a turn for the offensive. The age of the witch hunts and inquisition might be over, so it's not quite on-the-offense offensive (although I side-eye Christians that I've met who consider the curbing of religious violence as a bad thing) but the principle of personal sovereignty being evil and automatically arrogant, of gender discrimination being a holy edict, scientific progress being judged as heresy, and more reasons that I consider completely valid (but then, of course, I
would) being dismissed as conveniently self-serving of some circular definition of sin--just gets me to "Nope!" right out of church. (It appears that "nope" is a verb now and for some reason associated with octopi.)
Which is not to say that
everything Jesus stands for and has been represented as is the worst thing in the world. It's not, a lot of it is (if I may have the temerity to opine) quite beautiful, wise, and profoundly fulfilling. But
that's not what you were asking, so I won't get off-topic with that.